My approach
A stronger bond changes
how you face the hard things.
Attachment-based couples counseling attends to the security of your relationship, the emotions beneath your reactions, and what happens in your nervous systems when things get difficult.
01 / Attachment
Emotionally
Focused Therapy
Training with Dr. Sue Johnson, developer of EFT
Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples helps partners understand and change the emotional patterns that leave them disconnected. We look beneath the argument to questions such as: Do I matter to you? Can I reach you? Will you be there when I need you?
In sessions, that means slowing down familiar reactions and creating opportunities to respond to each other with greater openness and care. The goal is a more secure, responsive bond.
02 / Attachment & regulation
The PACT
model
Years of study with Dr. Stan Tatkin, developer of PACT
PACT stands for Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy. It brings together attachment theory, developmental neuroscience, and arousal regulation.
I draw on this work to pay attention to the moment-to-moment experience between you: a change in tone, a tightening expression, the impulse to argue, or the urge to shut down. Understanding those signals helps us work on how you respond to each other under stress.
03 / The realities of family life
A parent’s
whole world
17 years working exclusively with parents
I bring together knowledge of individual regulation, how couples regulate together, and the pressures of raising children. Learning to settle yourself matters. So does learning how your responses affect your partner.
My parent coaching work also helps me understand how discipline disagreements, child development, and daily family routines can become relationship stress. We can work with those realities directly.
Why this approach
Meaningful change,
with research behind it.
EFT has a substantial research base supporting its effectiveness for relationship distress. Studies and research reviews report improvements in relationship satisfaction, with follow-up research showing that gains can continue beyond treatment.
That is one reason I value attachment-based work: it gives us a way to address the emotional bond that shapes how you experience conflict and connection. PACT adds a closely observed focus on attachment and regulation in the room.
Research on EFT supports EFT specifically; it does not establish that every attachment-based approach outperforms every alternative. Outcomes vary, and no approach guarantees a particular result for your relationship.
A place to begin
Let’s see if we’re a good fit.
A separate 20-minute conversation with each partner.